Accomplishments

Why is it when your significant other is around, you seem to find yourself being the most boring and tedious person?

Many believe that you get into a "rut" when you're with someone for a long time, or when you've run out of new and exciting things to do. It seems we're defined by time. Almost as if we lose our sense of self worth, all because of familiarity. You see married couples in their 5th, sometimes 6th year, and they just seem more like roommates then two people who love each other. It's almost like living with a brother or sister, whom you have occasional sexual encounters with. *Not to say marriage is incest, just looks to be as comfortable and as natural as siblings.*
But the day either of you is gone from one or the other, the old "fun" you seems to appear.

You seem to find yourself cleaning more, or even letting loose more about trash. Finding out what you really enjoy and don't enjoy, while the other isn't around. This never seems to happen when one or the other is just off at work, or some other activity during the day or a certain amount of hours, but when its at least a days worth and you really have time to just think for yourself. You almost wish you were that person more often when the other person's around. Every time you try though, it always seems to back fire and you look more like somethings wrong then you trying to be that "fun" you again.

Does marriage end up defining a person's personality? Or does it allow you to get so comfortable, you just stop trying to be happier each day, and allow yourself to be content?